I confess, I took a vacation, but it’s time to get back on track!
We have discovered a couple of great little books written by David Niven, Ph.d. entitled “The 100 simple secrets of Happy People” and “The 100 simple secrets of Happy Families”. The most interesting thing about these “secrets” is that they are all based on research. We will post a weekly tip at the ranch and here for you to consider…
We Seek Warmth
You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be exciting. You don’t have to be funny. You don’t have to be wise. The most important thing you can offer your family is something that is within us all: genuine concern.
So many of the children, teens and even adults that we work with have come through very difficult situations and may not feel like they matter. What’s more, their very ability to trust and accept love and concern from others may have been damaged. Through work with horses they are able to experience unconditional acceptance and begin to work on rebuilding the ability to participate in healthy, respectful and mutually loving relationships.
There are so many things that we can do without, but the one thing that we all need is to know that we matter to someone. The greatest gift we can give to others is the gift of spending time with them. Nothing means more. Spend time with someone you love.
Studies of adult children find that nine out of ten feel closest to the family member who shows them the most warmth and sensitivity. McCarter 2000