Loss, grief and recovery

For BlogAt some point in our lives we will all lose someone we love. If we love it will happen. It is never easy, though some people seem to handle it better than others.

New research shows that one of the things that is helpful for many people working through grief is having personal ‘rituals’.

In reading the article about this in ‘The Atlantic’ I was struck griefby the fact that participating in these rituals meant that the person grieving allowed themselves to feel whatever it is they are feeling.  There is no ‘timeline’ for leaving grief behind, but we may feel that there is a timeline for public displays of our feelings. By having rituals that we continue to practice, we are able to take the time in private, or at least not in front of those who might be judgmental, to work through our grief. It may be that at the end of the day, making peace in the way that works for us is the best answer.

Angry woman 5In our work with horses, we are often working with people who have become out of touch with their feelings. For whatever reasons, many people decide that it is ‘safer’ not to feel or at least not to express their feelings to anyone else. Many times, through work with horses, clients are able to reconnect to their feelings. We may first ask them to be aware of how the horse is feeling…relaxed? worried? eager? Then we may ask “have you ever felt that way” or “what makes you feel that way?” woman with horse 3 We have also found that for some, sharing their feelings with their horse feels safer than expressing those same feelings with another human.

If you or someone you know could use some help in working through difficult feelings, call or email to schedule a visit. We will show you around, introduce our wonderful horses, learn more about what you are dealing with and share how we might be able to help.

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