From the book ‘The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People’
TAKE CARE NOT TO HARSHLY CIRITIZE FAMILY AND FRIENDS
We rely on those closest to us for support. We can accept critical words from those who ar not close to us because we can believe they reflect a lack of knowledge about us rather than an actual flaw in us. From our friends and family, however, critical words cut deeply. Try to avoid fixing your friends and family. Love them for who they are. If you must say something negative, always be constructive. Make your criticism reflect your love and respect, not your disappointment.
We can be so thoughtless about what we say and do. Alot of the kids and teens we work with have come to us through the foster system. They may have suffered neglect and abuse. And sadly, many of them feel that they have ended up in foster care because of something they did (it’s just how kids see things). Imagine their pain…
In our work with horses, we often focus on improving self esteem and self confidence. We work with our clients to feel empowered and capable. I can’t tell you how it feels to hear a child or teen say ‘I think he (a horse) like me’ in a way that indicates that they have not felt this unconditional acceptance very often.
If you know a child or teen who has self esteem/self confidence issues, call or email us to schedule a visit. We will show you around, introduce you to our wonderful horses, learn more about what you are dealing wiht and share how we might be able to help.
Aggression and fixation on desagreements reduces satisfaction in relationships by nearly 70 percent. Chand 1990